Reflections on Friendships
"As we go on, we remember,
All the times we, shared together...
And as our lives change, from whatever,
We will still be FRIENDS FOREVER!" --Vitamin C "Graduation"
We relate to friends at a very early age. Whether it is an imaginary friend that keeps us company at our little tea party with Barbie, Teddy Bear, and My Little Pony or the first person we meet in Preschool or Kindergarten, we all want to have a friend. The reasons why we become friends change every year. "John is my best friend because his name is John and mine is Johnson...we both have John in our names!" could be the reason in Kindergarten. "T.J. gave me his twinkie, so he is my best friend!" is the reason in 1st grade. It could even be, "Roy is my best friend because he is always there for me whenever things just don't go right for me.." in the 10th grade. Whatever the reason you become friends or consider one a best friend, one thing is certain. Friendships change. People change. So if one person is your friend one year, they could be an aquaintance the next year.
Think about it. A person will meet a lot of people throughout their life. Some will hate them, some will like them, some will try anything to get you to notice them. So out of all those people that you meet, how do you determine who is my friend and who isn't? Conversation. People who tend to talk more tend to be good friends. Sometimes a situation occurs that will get in the way of communication. During elementary and middle school, you meet someone in class and you will see that person in class for the rest of the school year everyday. SO you talk about anything and everything. But the next year you don't have the same teacher. You make a new friend to talk to. High school and college come around and you don't see your friend much anymore. Different classes, different high school or college, whatever. You tend to lose the closeness that you once shared. And life happens to everyone. The once talkative socialite could be a loner misfit in a few years. You never know waht cards life will deal to you, but you have to be able to accept it and play with the cards that you are dealt.
One friend will become two. You will be introduced to their friends and then your few circle of friends become a clique. So you know a lot of people, but majority of them are aquaintances. Sound kind of familiar? It is what we go through in life when we make friends. It is also the sad truth to certain sites that bring up the number of your group of friends. I admit that I joined Friendster. Many people did and went further and joined MySpace and others just like it. I look at my "friends" and I have 177. I am a popular guy. But as I look at all 177 friends on my profile, I realize that I don't talk to most of them. Most of them are just aquaintances. And some I only met once, but lo and behold they are on my friend list. Isn't the basis of friendster is to find friends and then hook up with thier friends to build up your circle of friends? It is really a gay concept, especially if you consider who is in your circle of friends. If it were truly Friendster, I would probably have just a good 10 people in my circle instead of 177.
Basically friendships change. If you were to tell me that I am not as close to a lot of my friends in high school, I would not have believed you a few years back. I see it now that it is true. I hardly speak to any of my friends in high school, even my close firends. We will have a mini conversation here and there, but nothing like the way we used to. I have changed many "best friends", cliques, and groups. I hung out with girls, guys, homies, drama people, choir people, freshies, and just hung around people who stayed after school. I chilled with the Asians, I chilled with the Hispanics. I chilled with the jocks, Foxy Ladies, many other cliques. Rosa was my best friend, J.T. was my best friend. Vannesa Casas was my best friend. They might not be my best friends now, but we are still friends regardless of what has happened. Some are closer than others. I mean I met a lot of people through work, and I tend to talk to them more, so they are my close friends as of now, but just because we don't talk as much as we used to or I don't publicly say "So and So" are my friends, doesn't mean that we are not friends. Just know that if we were close in the past and we aren't as close now, it doesn't change the fact that I will try to be there for you whenever you call.
"if i considered someone a best friend, does that necessarily make me theirs? i guess not cause some people that i consider to be my best friend, im not to them... i wish that for once, that i had a best friend that considers me to be their best friend..."
I got this from a friend's Xanga. Í don't know who it is addressed to, but just know that just because I don't say that you are my best friend doesn't mean that I don't hold you dear and near my heart. If it is to someone else...know that they feel the same way.
I found this in a past entry of my old blogger. Hope this explains that no matter what...we will always be friends even if we don't talk as much:
Okay so yeah....September 23, was my friend's birthday. ____________. Yeah, we have been friends for a very long time. Met ya in freshman year at SEMHS, and even had you for choir and stuff. Been through a lot together. You are a really cool and great friend to know. Hope you had fun on your Birthday...after i kidnapped you and told you bout it first..but yeah special day indeed...lol..yeah man KAROKE!! but anyways...Happy 19th! You always have a special place in my heart...homies friends for life...we are a part of the Shively Six Guys Colombia 2 Girls...nothing will change that...
"As we go on, we remember,
All the times we, shared together...
And as our lives change, from whatever,
We will still be FRIENDS FOREVER!" --Vitamin C "Graduation"
We relate to friends at a very early age. Whether it is an imaginary friend that keeps us company at our little tea party with Barbie, Teddy Bear, and My Little Pony or the first person we meet in Preschool or Kindergarten, we all want to have a friend. The reasons why we become friends change every year. "John is my best friend because his name is John and mine is Johnson...we both have John in our names!" could be the reason in Kindergarten. "T.J. gave me his twinkie, so he is my best friend!" is the reason in 1st grade. It could even be, "Roy is my best friend because he is always there for me whenever things just don't go right for me.." in the 10th grade. Whatever the reason you become friends or consider one a best friend, one thing is certain. Friendships change. People change. So if one person is your friend one year, they could be an aquaintance the next year.
Think about it. A person will meet a lot of people throughout their life. Some will hate them, some will like them, some will try anything to get you to notice them. So out of all those people that you meet, how do you determine who is my friend and who isn't? Conversation. People who tend to talk more tend to be good friends. Sometimes a situation occurs that will get in the way of communication. During elementary and middle school, you meet someone in class and you will see that person in class for the rest of the school year everyday. SO you talk about anything and everything. But the next year you don't have the same teacher. You make a new friend to talk to. High school and college come around and you don't see your friend much anymore. Different classes, different high school or college, whatever. You tend to lose the closeness that you once shared. And life happens to everyone. The once talkative socialite could be a loner misfit in a few years. You never know waht cards life will deal to you, but you have to be able to accept it and play with the cards that you are dealt.
One friend will become two. You will be introduced to their friends and then your few circle of friends become a clique. So you know a lot of people, but majority of them are aquaintances. Sound kind of familiar? It is what we go through in life when we make friends. It is also the sad truth to certain sites that bring up the number of your group of friends. I admit that I joined Friendster. Many people did and went further and joined MySpace and others just like it. I look at my "friends" and I have 177. I am a popular guy. But as I look at all 177 friends on my profile, I realize that I don't talk to most of them. Most of them are just aquaintances. And some I only met once, but lo and behold they are on my friend list. Isn't the basis of friendster is to find friends and then hook up with thier friends to build up your circle of friends? It is really a gay concept, especially if you consider who is in your circle of friends. If it were truly Friendster, I would probably have just a good 10 people in my circle instead of 177.
Basically friendships change. If you were to tell me that I am not as close to a lot of my friends in high school, I would not have believed you a few years back. I see it now that it is true. I hardly speak to any of my friends in high school, even my close firends. We will have a mini conversation here and there, but nothing like the way we used to. I have changed many "best friends", cliques, and groups. I hung out with girls, guys, homies, drama people, choir people, freshies, and just hung around people who stayed after school. I chilled with the Asians, I chilled with the Hispanics. I chilled with the jocks, Foxy Ladies, many other cliques. Rosa was my best friend, J.T. was my best friend. Vannesa Casas was my best friend. They might not be my best friends now, but we are still friends regardless of what has happened. Some are closer than others. I mean I met a lot of people through work, and I tend to talk to them more, so they are my close friends as of now, but just because we don't talk as much as we used to or I don't publicly say "So and So" are my friends, doesn't mean that we are not friends. Just know that if we were close in the past and we aren't as close now, it doesn't change the fact that I will try to be there for you whenever you call.
"if i considered someone a best friend, does that necessarily make me theirs? i guess not cause some people that i consider to be my best friend, im not to them... i wish that for once, that i had a best friend that considers me to be their best friend..."
I got this from a friend's Xanga. Í don't know who it is addressed to, but just know that just because I don't say that you are my best friend doesn't mean that I don't hold you dear and near my heart. If it is to someone else...know that they feel the same way.
I found this in a past entry of my old blogger. Hope this explains that no matter what...we will always be friends even if we don't talk as much:
Okay so yeah....September 23, was my friend's birthday. ____________. Yeah, we have been friends for a very long time. Met ya in freshman year at SEMHS, and even had you for choir and stuff. Been through a lot together. You are a really cool and great friend to know. Hope you had fun on your Birthday...after i kidnapped you and told you bout it first..but yeah special day indeed...lol..yeah man KAROKE!! but anyways...Happy 19th! You always have a special place in my heart...homies friends for life...we are a part of the Shively Six Guys Colombia 2 Girls...nothing will change that...
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